The conditions that call for a Frying Pan:

• You participate in an Evolutionary Team: a project, a community, a gameworld, a 3Cell or even a family.
• You agree that your Team includes Transformation, Evolution, Initiation or Change as one of the Bright Principles that source the context of your work together.
• You sense that there is a disagreement, a conflict, a resentment, revenge, manipulation, control or any other Shadow Principles taking place between 2 or more people within your Team.
• You refuse to abide by the survival unconscious collective agreement to ignore the 'elephant in the room'
• You take the risk to put the poop on the table by calling in a Frying Pan
• You can either hold space yourself for the Frying Pan which takes skills or you can call in one of the Frying Pan Spaceholder listed below

How does a Frying Pan work?

You set

It seems to be positively useful to enter a Frying Pan for Couples admitting that you are handicapped in Relating.

When you start from having Nothing, you can only learn Something.

It will go against every of your survivalist patriarchal thoughtware to place your Relating into a public space.

Have you ever regarded a couple - your parents, friends, a aunt and uncle - as a role model for Relating until you discover that they are divorcing? Have you ever wondered how you got fool? What you did not see?

In modern culture, relationship are private. What happens behind closed doors stays behind closed doors. Secrecy is a rich soil for neurosis of physical or psycho-emotional violence to take root without ever being questionned.

In Archiarchy, Relating is public. It is a Village matter. An Archan Village is centered on Winning Happening, in other words Love Happening. The Village knows that Love happening between two people feeds the Village itself.

There are many reasons why people come together in a space of relating.

Most couples who are not aware of navigating that Relating involves navigating 3 Domains of Love, 3 Worlds, the distinction between Box / Gremlin and Being, Bright Principles and Shadow Principles end up over and over again in Ordinary Relating.

The main purpose of Ordinary Relating is to use your partner as the primary food for your Gremlin. You play your Shadow Purpose in your Relating to prove once again that you have no choice but to survive.

Ordinary Relating is well... Ordinary.

In a Frying Pan, you have a chance to examine closely the thoughtwares, old decisions,

A Frying Pan is not an Emotional Healing Process coaching session.

It is not a therapy session.

It is not a mediation.

It is not a trial.

A Frying Pan